School, Summer, and Life.........

     For my daughter school for the year will be done June 1st. I can't wait to sleep in, not worry about lunch money, or clean school clothes! Or should I say what she picked out matches? She is finishing up kindergarten, next on to 1st grade. She has had a awesome teacher this year who has worked with us on things happening.
 
    Summer is almost upon us, now to find cheap and reasonable things to do while she's out of school for the summer. We are working on getting our garden put in. Will be glad when its all done and stuff starts coming up, and we can eat the fruit of our labor.

      What are your summer plans? Anything fun happening? Vacations planned? Or are you just staying home for the summer? We are already hitting 80's in early May here, hoping its a good year for my garden but not too hot.
    

Empty Nesting Is For The Birds

When mothers talk about the depression of the empty nest, they're not mourning the passing of all those wet towels on the floor, or the music that numbs your teeth, or even the bottle of capless shampoo dribbling down the shower drain. They're upset because they've gone from supervisor of a child's life to a spectator. It's like being the vice president of the United States.

Erma Bombeck 

Bye, bye birdie, bye bye.  Just typing those words make me want to cry.  I am now part of the Empty Nester club.  If you have no idea what empty nest syndrome is, the short of it means your kids are grown and no longer live at home and you may be feeling some sadness, depression and down right have no clue what to do with yourself, or not.  Every person is different....however.....

Yep, I'm there and let me tell you what, I am not liking it one little bit.  Nope, not so much!  I miss carting my son around, going here, going there.  I miss him and his friends eating me out of house and home.  Okay, I don't miss the teenage B.S. he put me through but that was part of him growing up.  

I miss how we used to talk, we were hard pressed to be separated.  My son used to worship the ground I walked on and now......he tells me he's 'too busy' and 'doesn't have the time'.  I'll be honest, that kind of ticks me right off.  I was never too busy or didn't have time for him.

He's moved out, 20 years old and I hardly ever hear from him.  Yes, I know I need to let him 'find his way' I get that.  I fight like madness to keep from calling him 1000 times a day.  I want to hear his voice, I NEED to hear his voice.  Oh man, I'm DOOMED.  I have no freaking idea what to do.  

What is even worse, my friends all have kids so now I don't even fall into their 'category' anymore.  They are busy raising their families and um, I don't have any at home.  Slowly we are drifting apart and the common ground isn't there anymore.

Empty Nest Syndrome can get very bad for some women.  I'll be okay but I know many who are not.  Women tend to be more susceptible to feeling the loss of their children no longer being home.  

If you are experiencing this life transitional experience and find yourself feeling that your useful life has ended, or if you are crying a lot, or just so sad that you don't want to see friends, go to work or function in daily life then please speak with your doctor, seek professional help.  The feeling of loss is very real and nothing to be ashamed of.

Tell me about your experiences with empty nest syndrome and how you deal or have dealt with it.